{"aphorisms":[{"explanation":"
“Ask not the elves for advice, because they will tell you both ‘yes’ and ‘no’.”\n― J.R.R. Tolkien
\n\nSee also STFL #132
\n","tags":["advice","speech","listening","people"],"key":"92","truth":"Be careful what you say. Sometimes people will listen."},{"truth":"If we each spent more time feeling sympathy for one another rather than giving advice, we’d be better, happier people.","key":"102","tags":["advice","sympathy"],"ht":"The Word","explanation":"Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. (Romans 12:15)
\n"},{"explanation":"See also STFL #92. No matter how wise the advice, how applicable, how reasonable, how\nfeasible, and how convenient, people will generally favor their preconceptions.\nNo matter how terrible their problem, how urgent their need to fix, and how dire\nthe consequences, they will walk right off the cliff if they already have it in\nmind. You remember when your parents asked you, \"If all your friends jumped off\na cliff, would you?\" This is that in action. Adults walk off cliffs all the time\nbecause that's what they think they are supposed to.
\n\nIf they just took even a single minute to think for themselves or to actually\nconsider wise counsel, they could save themselves and their loved ones a great\ndeal of trouble.
\n","tags":["advice","speech","listening","people"],"key":"132","truth":"Never be surprised when someone has a serious problem, does not know what to do, asks for advice, and then ignores you because you did not confirm whatever preconceived tomfoolery they hoped to hear."}],"list":"tag-advice","title":"Sterling’s Truths for Life: advice"}